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Using ice (Brrr!)
Fri, 21 Jan, 1994
Dear Residue,
In regards to ice play, every sub is different. Some really like it;
some hate it. I'm one of those who hates it, so my master uses it on me
(a) when he feeling particularly sadistic and (b) as a punishment for
disobedience. For me, it's a very effective deterrent.
I hate cold sensations a great deal, so Donald, in noting this, has made
it a daily practice (you might even call it a ritual--g) to take the
bottle of refrigerated seltzer water I bring him every night before bed
and roll it around on my back and belly after he's blindfolded and
collared me to the bed. What a meanie, eh? I hate that cold feeling,
but every night I get that frigging bottle on my skin somewhere, and I'm
not allowed to push it away; I've got to stay still till he's had his
fun.
Why not be nice (and unlike Donald!) and go slow with the ice and see if
she likes it? Don't shove it up her anus first thing--rub a cube up and
down her belly, around her breasts, on her mound, on her thighs, back, and
shoulders. If she reacts positively to these less-sensitive areas, try
moving the cube betwen her vagina lips and between her ass cheeks. Even do
the bottoms of her feet, but save insertion for last--it's the worst. If
she's the type who really hates cold stuff she'll probably let you know
before you reach that last stage.
Couple of other thoughts: if you do reach the insertion stage: watching
and commenting upon the melting water as it drips from whatever hole you
placed it in is a nice humilation, if you're into that.
Ice-play is often preceded by blindfolding, so your sub doesn't know what
you're up to beforehand. She thinks it'll be just a standard paddling and
then there's this...sensation. But what is it? It's hard to tell
sometimes if you're blind and not expecting it. Fire and Ice is the term
for a particularly nice combo: hot wax (or ash) and ice alternated. A lot
of subs really, really like this. Remember, if you're doing hot wax, you
may want to grease her up first so that the wax doesn't burn as badly or
stick to her skin. And use the white candles--they're the safest (or so
I've heard).
The most extreme case of fire-and-ice play that I've ever heard of
concerned a dom (a friend of a friend) who was playing with his sub's
girlfriend (a comparative newbie). He and this woman had played together
before, but she really didn't know him that well and she was fairly new to
S&M play in general. He placed her on a cross and then threatened to
brand her on the breast: he heated the brand, brought it close to her
skin, etc. Then he blindfolded her, saying he didn't want her to see
this. She was totally terrifed by that time, especially as her begging
him not to do this didn't seem to have any effect. When he brought the
brand up real close, only substituting an ice cube for it at the last
moment, she shrieked in agony and her skin reddened and blistered under
the cube. She said it felt like a severe burn and I don't think she
ever played with the guy again. This is a pretty intense head trip and I
don't recommend that you try this right away with your girlfriend, but it's an
interesting story nonetheless.
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