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Re: Who Has The Power
Mon, 4 Jul, 1994
A while ago, Jon Jacobs said:
>>> What I'm advocating is a system...where the needs of safety are
met not by unsafe words...<<<
Tee hee on the "unsafe," Mr. Jacobs. It reminds me of what we do at
home. First of all, Donald claims (note the emphasis on the "claims")
that he gave me a safe word once during our first year together and that I
promptly forgot it. Naturally, I have no memory of such an incident ever
occuring. Now, every time the pain gets to be a bit much and I am begging
pitiously for mercy, Donald, safety-conscious dominant that is is, just
tells me to use the safeword he gave me. Secondly, in addition to having
a safeword, I have something that I doubt any other asb'er has (sticking
out chest proudly): danger words! One set of them is "you stupid cukoo
dum-dum bozo!" Another is "No fucking way!" Still another is "Shove it up
your ass." Another: "Yawn! Bring me a pillow, I'm falling asleep!" And
another: "(giggle) You call that dominance?" Danger words, as you might
be able to deduce from the above, work the opposite of safewords.
You use them when your top is thudding away on you, ho hum, very boring,
starting to drift off, and you want to liven things up a bit. Being the
equal-opportunist that I am, I think every sub who has a safeword (even if
she can't remember the damn thing!) also deserves a danger word. Don't you
agree?
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