The person with one of the best pseudonyms I have ever seen on ASB (a.k.a. Sir Sir), in a long excellent message about how people need to make the choices that work for them in D&S relationships, says one tiny thing that I have a contrasting opinion about. So naturally, being fatally infected with the Usenet nod virus, ASB strain, that's what I'm going to discuss!

>>> By acting as the dominant, I am allowed (note the operative word here, for it is my submissive that is *allowing* me to act dominant), to express....[eloquent description of various needs deleted]. <<<<

Wow! I was going to say about this statement that it is a description of the opposite of a power exchange, but upon reflection, that isn't so, because the opposite of a power exchange is no power exchange. What you're describing in this sentence is definitely a power exchange, but to my eyes, it's like a river running backwards, from the sea up the mountains, where it turns back into rain or snow and floats up into our atmosphere. Or the electricity being sucked from our various household lights and appliances back through the wires and into the power stations (where I suppose it then goes back to the hydroelectric dams, which then causes the rivers to run backward--g).

You're describing a power exchange, all right, but the flow is exactly opposite from that which I have come to experience and love as D&S power exchange. But as you said many times elsewhere in your message, different things work for different folks. But for myself and in the little universe of two that I live in, the earth revolves around the sun...and not the other way around.