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Pushing Limits
Sun, 30 Jan, 1994
Dear Seeker of New Sensations (a.k.a. Terry),
If you think you'd have trouble remembering your safeword during a scene,
and you're at the point in your relationship where you can trust your
master with this, consider doing a limits-pushing scene without the
safeword. Instead, your dominant should stop when he has judged you have
been pushed enough. This can work well, but only if you trust him to read
you and not to take you too far. In a non-safeword scene, you need to do
your part and respond honestly to the sensations. If nothing is hurting
you, don't scream in agony; likewise as the pain increases in intensity,
don't turn into a stoic: your screams or groans or movements or whatever
your personal response to pain is should increase as the pain does. This
gives your top valuable clues as to your subjective experience of the
pain, not to mention being a pleasure for him to watch.
As far as what it feels like, when my limits are pushed successfully it
feels like I take the pain up until the point where I can't stand it
anymore and then my master gives me a very little bit more beyond that
point: a few more smacks with the paddle, another cut with the cane, five
more minutes in the tit clamps. What I learn from such experiences is
that I can tolerate even more than I thought I could, that I can get
through something I thought was intolerable...and then some. You feel a
marvelous feeling of acomplishment when your limits have been pushed
successfully.
When going from hand spankings to paddlings with implements, you can use
any paddle or whip that you want, as they all can be applied with less or
more force. Some are easier to control than others: for example cats with
sharp or knotted tips can be hard to control and the wrap effect (where
one of the tails or strands wraps around your side at the speed of light
and sears into your hip) can be so painful that I've known
beginner subs, after experiencing an accidental wrap, decide that they
never want to experience another whipping or spanking of any sort. In
addition, canes can be hard to use without giving someone lots of
pain--with these, a very light touch goes a long way. When I am given the
luxury of a warmup, I like ping pong paddles and slapper paddles (a
slapper paddle has a split end--the thickness of the leather is split in
two and both pieces slap together when they make contact)--you can go on
and on and on with these for a long time. You've heard people talking
about soft deerskin floggers here? These are nice because the dominant
can hit quite hard with these without it hurting much. If you get too
used to one of these floggers, you can always tie knots in it to make it a
rougher instrument. Put the knots at least 4 inches up each strand, in
case you want to add a second layer of knots later on. A good toy catalog
to get is Adam's Whips and Gillian's Toys (or is it the other way around?).
Anyway, I like this catalog because they use a nifty five-star rating
system on all their instruments: they label each whip in terms of the pain
it inflicts from novice to very advanced. I don't have a current number for
them, but maybe someone else does.
A fun and less abrupt way to push limits is to do a very long
spanking/flogging/whipping session with a variety of instruments. Taking
lots of pain is easier to do if the pain is varied--if it changes from
wooden paddle pain to cane pain to cat pain to shoesole paddle, to riding
crop pain, etc. When your master senses that you are close to your
limits, he can finish you off quickly with a few harder or faster strokes.
But if you want to go all out and get to your pain limits very quickly,
request your dominant to begin hitting you at heavy intensity--no
warmup--with the same instrument, over and over, very fast, very hard,
giving you no time to recover between strokes. I guess that approach is
nice if you just want to get the whole business over with quickly and then
go watch your favorite TV show or something (Harder, master, HARDER! The
Simpsons are coming on in two minutes!) , but I would think that for a
first time limits-pushing session, the slower approach would be more
gratifying for both partners.
Can I ask you a question? Why does your master have some serious issues
about not wanting to do something you will regret later? Have you had
a bad experience with pushing limits before?
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