Dear Residue,

I don't want to rain on your parade or anything, but often ageplay fantasies, like cross-dressing fantasies, don't represent a casual sexual interest that just goes away: these fantasies are very compelling and often need to be worked out or experienced in some way (roleplaying, fiction writing, etc.) or the person becomes very unhappy. Having known several frustrated infantalists and ageplayers with unsympathetic partners, I think I can safely wager that if your GF (girl friend? gay female?) doesn't get it from you, she will eventually go elsewhere to satisfy her urges to explore this area. In many people, ageplay fantasies represent not just a sexual fetish or a trivial interest nor (as you accurately pointed out) a way to deal with childhood abuse, but a matter of sexual identity, similar to the sexual identity that a homosexual or a transgenderist feels. It can be very powerful stuff, and in encouraging her to come up with intense fantasies, you've opened Pandora's box, so to speak. And while you may be able, through the force of your personality, to get her to repress those fantasies around you, they will never completely disappear and may be a source of friction or difficulty between you for as long as the relationship lasts. Such fantasies don't always have to be roleplayed out with one's partner: some people can't get into roles and so must find other avenues of expression. Perhaps just listening to her relate the fantasies (or reading them if she writes them down) while avoiding showing distaste or boredom might be enough. Sometimes it helps ageplayers to talk with others into the same kink. There are a number of us here on a.s.b.: I bet if she posted a message about her interest she'd get some responses.

Rosie (who, as she mentioned in an earlier post, is 5 with 30 years' experience--g).